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Being ‘Busy’ is quite the modern-day malaise. For many of us it has become not only our default setting but also somewhat self-congratulating.
‘How Am I? Well – you know – Busy.’
‘There are Not-Enough-Hours in the Day’.
But why in fact are we so freaking busy all the time? Let’s take a very quick look at 5 reasons we might not finding enough time in our days.
- Ego – Look how important and busy I am. Tim Kreider summed this up best in his NYT essay, ‘The Busy Trap’ noting that when we tell everyone how busy we are ‘It is, pretty obviously, a boast disguised as a complaint’. If we are so strapped for time, with so many people needing us then we must be important. This state of busyness is usually driven by insecurity, stemming from the belief we are missing something – if we are always busy then maybe we are enough?
- Fear – What happens if I stop being busy? For some of us this incessant busyness is a sign we are a bit scared of…..ourselves. A study published in the Science journal described an experiment where participants were left in a room alone for fifteen minutes. Over half of them did not enjoy the experience and in further studies chose to self-administer an electric shock rather than sit in silence by themselves. Yup – they would rather hurt themselves than just be with themselves. Scary Stuff.
- Perception – Are you really too busy? Often our lack of time is manifested from self-created busyness. Filling every hour of the day with things to do, much of it which serves little purpose. Checking our emails incessantly, liking people’s sunsets or discovering ‘Which Disney Character Are You?’. Life is short and Facebook quizzes are dumb. If you have time to find out ‘Which Facebook Friend would Take a Bullet for You?’, you are not that busy. Fact.
- Lack of Priorities – Too busy to do the stuff you really want to? Tim Ferris nails this one when he says, ‘Lack of time is lack of priorities. If I’m ‘busy’, it is because I’ve made choices that put me in that position.’ No time to exercise? Really? Too busy for some me-time? Pah. Who is steering the ship exactly? – You. The ‘To Do’ list can be helpful but only if for getting our priorities in order. We can all be ‘busy’ doing lots of meaningless things but being busy and getting things done are not the same thing.
- Wanting Too Much – Busy trying to get/have/do everything? Respect to all you Type A’s out there but if you equate ‘too busy’ with being totally stressed out maybe you might prefer life off the hamster wheel? Some of us are so busy making more money when what we really want is more time. To be with the people who matter to us or to spend time doing the things that are important to us. Do we actually need more money? To be that successful? To be the absolute best at whatever it is we are doing? Would wanting a little bit less actually allow us to take it a little easier and stop with the busy?
Derek Sivers, a man who says a lot of smart things, sums it up well when he says, ‘Every time people contact me, they say, ‘Look, I know you must be incredibly busy…’ and I always think, ‘No, I’m not.’ Because I’m in control of my time. I’m on top of it. ‘Busy,’ to me, seems to imply ‘out of control’.
Too Busy? Maybe it’s not as simple as that.
Turns out there are enough hours in the day but it’s up to you to decide how to spend them.
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15 thoughts on “If You Are Too Busy To Read This, Then You Really Need To Read This.”
Prioritizing is definitely the key! I used to be trapped in the “too busy to manage” cycle and it’s not a fun one to be in. Great post!
So true yet so often neglected. For me it’s probably the last point. I’m trying to do all and reach all goals now rather than give some more time and relax. But I’m learning 🙂
Such a great post, definitely something that I need to constantly be thinking about because it’s something I constantly struggle with! For me I think the biggest issues are the priorities one, and a little bit the perception one. Sometimes I can start to fall down a rabbit hole of non-productivity and then I’ll realize how much time I’ve wasted doing that!
I think I just like staying occupied with something! But I do understand you post. It’s important to step away and re-evaluate!
I’ll admit — I’m guilty of being one of these people. At some point, I fall into every single one of these categories for being “too busy”. I acknowledge it and recognize it when it’s happening — and then I try to step in and self-adjust! 🙂
Exactly and I’m so glad to be less busy these days, I take control of my time now. 🙂 It’s very sad how sometimes people tell you they are busy but when you look at them it seems that they are only busy thinking they are busy. 😛 Thanks for the post!
Thank you for this! I am in a constant state of busy and this is a good reminder to stop and look at why. <3
So true! I repeatedly find myself saying I’m too busy to catch up with friends or take time for myself. But I realized I’m the only one behind every busy choice I make! Now I take things slow and do what inspires me. Makes a total difference in happiness!
“Turns out there are enough hours in the day but it’s up to you to decide how to spend them.” LOVE THIS! Several years ago I heard someone say that too often we wear our busyness as a badge of honor, and that needs to stop. Ever since, I’ve tried to be more aware of whether the things that are making me “busy” are serving a purpose or if they are just “busy work.”
I admit the fear thing is part of my issue. Great food for thought here.
Absolutely TRUE! Very wise conclusions! I think we have come to feel like we have to say or act like we are busy or we aren’t really amounting to anything. Slowing down and figuring out what really matters and how we want to spend our time is essential to our happiness. I admire and appreciate anyone who works to get that figured out!
Hi Elizabeth! I’ve been working on reevaluating my schedule to see what is important and what is not. I’ve seen the term “unbusy” in the minimalist community and I love that word because it means we can intentionally make ourselves busy or “unbusy”. The lack of priorities that you mentioned can be my biggest weakness.
I loved this! There are many times in my life I have found myself or my family WAY too busy! it usually happens in the summer months and before I know it we are full on drowning with things to be done and places to go! thanks of this post! I am setting a goal right now to not be “BUSY” this summer!
powerful….i’m completely over the glorification of busy myself! great share (:
This is so good!!! I found myself in the busy trap not to long ago. I had to learn that productivity and busyness are two different things. So I sat down to write my goals for the year and then started time blocking my days to make sure that things I am doing get me closer to those goals.