What Do You Want?: Finding Your True Desire

I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to find one’s true desire. I have a lot of hobbies and I’m easily distracted by sparkly things. Ooh that reminds me, I wanted to look up…. ugh. See? But seriously, as I grow more and more aware of what makes me happy, what lifts my spirit, my vibration, and what I truly want to spend my time doing, I come back to this question often, what is my true desire? You see, I can convince myself of all kinds of things; that I truly desire to be a public speaker, that I want to be a YA fiction writer, that all I want to do is sit in quiet library archives and write and write and write…. And each one of these things would be true, and is true to a certain extent.

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Many Interests Making our True Desire Stay Hidden

So what does it mean if your “true” desires are all over the place and are varied? Do you have to choose just one? Where’s the wiggle room and grey areas? All questions I grapple with. However, I don’t think I could be any other way. I’ve always had a lot of hobbies and things I’m into – for a while at least.

I’m assuming you are the same way. Usually smart people have a lot of hobbies and I assume you’re smart since you’re filling your cup by reading self help blogs. But being into a lot of different things and actually having true desires are a bit different.

Working it Out

When is the last time you really asked yourself what you want? If it’s been a while, let’s rectify that. You might be surprised at the things that come up.

Get out your journal. Take a deep breath and ask yourself, what do I desire? Start writing down everything that comes to mind, no matter how wild, big, or small the ideas are. Trust that these desires are coming from your true self and are therefore worth exploring.

I think it’s important to play with this a bit. You can write down really serious things but also be light with it. Have a desire to go to the bathroom without a kid, cat, dog, or husband bugging you? Write it down.

Your desires may change from day to day, and that’s OK! There’s nothing wrong with changing your mind. That’s your prerogative as a multi-faceted woman. Some desires will feel stronger some days and weak on others. That’s why it is a good idea to revisit this journal prompt from time to time.

Once you have your list it’s time to free write on the one (or few) that feel most exciting for you. Again, don’t worry about reality vs fantasy or what feels doable. What we want to do is really lean in to the feeling of desiring this thing. Write about what it is, what it looks like or smells like. Think and then write out what it will feel like to actually have this desired object. Just let your imagination go wild. Write down everything that pops into your head about this desire.

Journal to find your true desire

How This Helps

Working on this journal exercise does a couple of things. First, it helps you pinpoint some true desires, which is a great way to work on your own self preservation and mindfulness. Second, having this list can serve as a type of checklist of good things that you want. Now you have a North Star to guide you towards achieving things that will make you happy. And third, free writing about the things that make you most excited begin to put that desire into the ether, so to speak. By thinking it, desiring it, picturing it, feeling it, this journal practice helps to put that desire out into the universe and it becomes one step closer to becoming real.

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